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    take one last look

    by  • November 19, 2015 • community, durham, family, friends, grief, home • 11 Comments


    As David Letterman was finishing up his years on late night television, one of his last guests was Tom Waits, who wrote a new song for Dave called “Take One Last Look.” I wept as I listened because Waits captured the mixture of feelings that flow as we move from one chapter of life...

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    the long road

    by  • October 2, 2015 • change, community, durham, friends, grief, music • 7 Comments

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    Most any aspect of my life demands a soundtrack. I’ve spent the afternoon getting cookie batter ready to bake tonight and the music played right along with me. As I came up to write, I procrastinated a bit by putting together a playlist full of rain songs for us to bake by this evening,...

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    so I shall sing

    by  • August 2, 2015 • family, grief, hope, music • 19 Comments

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    My father and I shared a love of hymns. Actually, it would probably be truer to say I learned to love hymns in large part because of my father. Though he rarely sang outside of the house, he loved the songs of faith. One of his favorites in his later years was Gloria Gaither’s...

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    passing the peace

    by  • April 12, 2015 • community, failure, grief, hope • 8 Comments


    The good people at West Raleigh Presbyterian Church read my book for their church-wide Lenten study and asked me to come preach this evening to close things out. Here is my sermon. ______________________ “Passing the Peace” A Sermon for West Raleigh Presbyterian Church April 12, 2015 John 20:19-31 I have to say my favorite...

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    lenten journal: wait

    by  • April 2, 2015 • grief, lenten journal, poetry • 3 Comments

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    perhaps we cannot understand— no matter how many holy weeks we live—the way that time must have emptied out into the darkness when they the took him from the garden. we mark the days between with names like good and holy, and know that they are the days between and not the beginning of...

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    lenten journal: passageway

    by  • March 27, 2015 • grief, hope, lenten journal • 5 Comments

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    Passageway. I was one of the words that showed up when I crowd-sourced my Lenten Lexicon. Tonight I figured out why. My plans for the evening have been laid out for a week: cook and watch basketball. I’ve been looking forward to it. I was flipping back and forth between the early games when...

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    lenten journal: perspective

    by  • March 18, 2015 • america, grief, lenten journal, love, poetry • 2 Comments

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    It’s not hard to find pain around us. I can name several friends who have marked the anniversary of a parent’s death, some who are facing difficult decisions about their jobs, others dealing with illnesses and uncertain outcomes. That just skims the surface. Pain is common currency, along with disappointment and loss. One of...

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    lenten journal: solace

    by  • March 11, 2015 • grief, lenten journal, poetry • 4 Comments

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    To say my father was a sports fan is like saying I like to cook. The man would pull over and watch five year olds play football just because it was a game. He became the Sports Chaplain at Baylor because he loved going to the games. I’ve thought a great deal about him...

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