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    take one last look

    by  • November 19, 2015 • community, durham, family, friends, grief, home • 11 Comments


    As David Letterman was finishing up his years on late night television, one of his last guests was Tom Waits, who wrote a new song for Dave called “Take One Last Look.” I wept as I listened because Waits captured the mixture of feelings that flow as we move from one chapter of life...

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    the long road

    by  • October 2, 2015 • change, community, durham, friends, grief, music • 7 Comments

    TND 10/1/15

    Most any aspect of my life demands a soundtrack. I’ve spent the afternoon getting cookie batter ready to bake tonight and the music played right along with me. As I came up to write, I procrastinated a bit by putting together a playlist full of rain songs for us to bake by this evening,...

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    lenten journal: mosaic

    by  • March 17, 2015 • friends, lenten journal, poetry • 3 Comments

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    the words are falling out in twos and threes tonight . . . a trickle of thought and thankfulness trying to keep a promise: I said I would meet you here, and bring a word: mosaic: diverse pieces forming a more or less coherent whole. Start with the shiny shards of my day: the...

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    advent journal: without

    by  • December 17, 2014 • advent journal, friends, grief, love • 3 Comments


    One of my favorite Pierce Pettis songs begins, “The presence of your absence follows me.” The song has played in the background of my week because tomorrow, December 18, will mark five years since my dear friend David Gentiles died. I could say many things about David, but maybe this will give you an...

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    by  • June 8, 2014 • Camino, durham, friends, home • 1 Comment


    the scallop shell was still swinging from the side of my backpack as I walked from home to our coffee shop to drop off cookies and write still a pilgrim I suppose this time in my own town broken sidewalks instead of trails sites made sacred by our stacks of stones and stories the...

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