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    muscle memory

    by  • April 26, 2016 • friends, music, poetry • 5 Comments


    muscle memory dishwashing always needs a soundtrack so I let my phone play deejay and the next thing I knew I was chewing on a piece of grass walking down the road even though we ain’t go money there’s a place in the world for a gambler so dance with me ‘cause oz never...

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    lenten journal: old friend

    by  • February 29, 2016 • friends, lenten journal, music • 5 Comments

    old friend

    Today’s words grew out of those suggested when I was crowdsourcing ideas for my Lenten writings. The suggestion was best friends. After hearing from some lifelong friends over the past several days in different ways, I made a slight adjustment.  Thinking about the words set me to thinking of songs, and so I offer another musical...

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    lenten journal: homemade

    by  • February 17, 2016 • food, friends, joy, lenten journal • 5 Comments


    When I was crowdsourcing words for my Lenten practice, my friend David sent, “homemade (pimento cheese).” I’ve been thinking about them ever since. homemade (pimento cheese) turn the gas burner on high and lay the peppers on the flame till they blister and turn black; put them in a bowl, cover it with plastic...

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    marking time

    by  • December 27, 2015 • community, depression, friends, writing • 9 Comments


    December 27th. The day after the day after. For me, it carries some significance, however. On this day ten years ago I wrote my first blog post here at Don’t Eat Alone. I was four years into coming to terms with my depression, which was still kicking my butt at that point. I was...

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    take one last look

    by  • November 19, 2015 • community, durham, family, friends, grief, home • 12 Comments


    As David Letterman was finishing up his years on late night television, one of his last guests was Tom Waits, who wrote a new song for Dave called “Take One Last Look.” I wept as I listened because Waits captured the mixture of feelings that flow as we move from one chapter of life...

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