• acquainted with grief: a review of “american kid”

    by  • June 10, 2013 • faith, grief, hope, music, music review • 5 Comments

    These past few days have been filled with grief in the lives of some of those closest to Ginger and me. Though their stories are not mine to tell, I have been touched as well and reminded again of how much death and grief are a part of life for all of us. In the midst of it all, I had a chance to hear Patty Griffin sing last Saturday night at the Haw River Ballroom in Saxapahaw NC, which is a little town about twenty miles from Durham with an awesome music hall. She is touring her newest record, American Kid

    , which is a collection of songs she wrote as her father was dying.

    “You can go wherever you want to go,” begins the first song – an offer of permission for a departure over which she has no control; as she continues, the permission becomes a blessing:

    you don’t ever have to pay the bills no more
    break a sweat or walk a worried floor now
    working like a dog ain’t what you’re for now
    you don ‘t ever have to pay the bills no more

    As I listened to the third track, “Ohio,” I couldn’t help but hear trickles of Jordan-like imagery as she and Robert Plant sang about the river I crossed a couple of weeks ago, crossing over between Ohio and Kentucky.

    if the hounds are howling and you cannot hide
    my friend I will meet you on the other side
    no lines, no lines the river is a river not a line
    my love is the water and it’s stronger and deeper than time

    About three songs into most any Patty Griffin record and I wish I could sit down and talk to her about how the streams of faith and hope run through her life. I make no assumptions about whom or what she trusts, and I find my faith is strengthened by her questions and honesty and her incisive choices of words. The most challenging and, I must say, beautiful, theological image on the whole record comes in the fourth song, “Wild Old Dog.”

    God is a wild old dog
    someone left out on the highway
    I seen him running by me
    he don’t belong to no one now

    In concert, she talked about finding inspiration in seeing a pit bull running in the waving grass along the highway somewhere in Arkansas; at first, she was struck by his beauty and then realized someone had dumped him and, as she said, “he was done for.” What I hear in her song and the haunting image is the story of how God often gets left aside or behind in our darkest times, or even how some choose to see faith as something whose usefulness we outgrow, making this one of the saddest songs in the whole collection.

    The palpable ache that comes with the absence of those we love is beautifully articulated in “That Kind of Lonely.”

    every strand has come unwound
    every heart is all worn down
    everyone in the room wanted
    to be somewhere else
    so tonight I’ll find a key
    and drive away a little early
    It’s the last time I wanna be that kind of lonely

    Truly, she writes as one acquainted with grief. Well acquainted. And from her sadness, then, she tells stories, as one would do at a wake or the meal following a funeral: “Irish Boy,” “Faithful Son,”  and “Not a Bad Man” sing of the man she learned her father was as he told her stories she had not heard before. “Mom and Dad’s Waltz” and “Get Ready Marie” give melody to a marriage, the latter with quite a bit of humor. Here is a gifted songwriter a the top of her craft, using her gifts to articulate both pain and hope, telling her story as a way of telling the story of our lives and deaths, which is a journey of both grief and grace, offering us healing in the hearing and the singing along.

    The last song, “Gonna Miss You When You’re Gone,” brings the collection to a close with a strong and intentional goodbye. She doesn’t wait for him to die to tell him how she feels; she is singing to a man who was still here, though we are hearing the record months after her father’s death. It’s been over a year and a half since my father-in-law died and hardly a day goes by that we don’t speak of him, or catch a glimpse of him in some irrepressible memory. Part of what helps in those moments mixed with sadness and gratitude is the sense that we said what we wanted to say to one another before he died. We do our best work when we stay current with one another, even when life doesn’t appear to be on the line.

    American Kid is record filled with songs that take sadness seriously but not ultimately, which makes it a gospel record, as far as I’m concerned — hymns for disconsolate hearts, melodies that lead us into memories. These are songs to take to heart.

    Peace
    Milton

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    5 Responses to acquainted with grief: a review of “american kid”

    1. June 10, 2013 at 11:44 pm

      songs that take sadness seriously but not ultimately…
      … beauty for ashes, strength for fear, gladness for mourning, peace for despair…
      praise God.

    2. June 10, 2013 at 11:50 pm

      Patty Griffin sounds like the real deal. And it would seem her ability to be authentic resonated deeply with you.

      Thanks for sharing this. As I’m writing this, her song “Go Wherever You Wanna Go” is playing via YouTube.

      Thanks for introducing me to great artist, Milton.

    3. Terry Allebaugh
      June 11, 2013 at 7:51 am

      I am moved to buy this CD. Thanks, Milton.

    4. pdr
      June 12, 2013 at 10:20 am

      Milton,
      Thank you for sharing this. I’ll get the CD today.

      And thanks for sharing this… “We do our best work when we stay current with one another, even when life doesn’t appear to be on the line.” I’ll call my brothers and some friends today, thanks to you.

    5. Laura Todd
      July 4, 2013 at 9:53 pm

      Thank you for mentioning this post today. It meant more after having time with you in the kitchen listening to it. “Wild old dog” is forever changed for me. And this line you wrote: “offering us healing in the hearing and the singing along”… YES! I feel that constantly but hadn’t put words to it. I am still surprised by how much I love this CD and I thank you for putting it’s beauty in words :)

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